I have worked with the public for over 35 years in a variety of different sectors, and throughout that time I always seemed to attract people to me that needed help in working through their problems and issues. (although friends always said that I just liked fixing everyone)
I was married at sixteen and I have six boys, one of which is mentally handicapped, I have lost a baby & had a miscarriage.
I got divorced when I still had 4 boys at home that I needed to support so I started the first of several new businesses, some of which worked and some left me near bankruptcy.
I hardly saw my kids going through their teenage years when they needed me most because I was working 24/7.
It took a lot of self-work to manage the guilt and regret that left me with.
Along the way, I have experienced depression, anxiety and masses and masses of stress, but what kept me sane (most of the time)
was my passion and believes that there was more to life than just struggle with little bits of happiness thrown in.
So I learned from the ups and downs and sideways jolts of life’s little rollercoaster and I trained and qualified in several different fields,
and I am still learning to this day as scientist, visionaries and scholars find new ways to connect our bodies and minds to create and live the healthy life that we all want free from guilt, fear, regrets, struggle & scarcity
Helping others to free themselves from these restraints and fears and give them the resources needed to move forward just seemed the natural next step for me to take because, as anyone who has ever learned these lessons will tell you, there is no scarcity in life
( and when I say scarcity I mean in every area of your life from wealth, health, love & happiness) its there for all of us and once learned you too will want to share these steps with everyone you know and love.
That is why I am now in the health, wellbeing and coaching sector to make sure that you have don’t have to go through the next 20 years full of guilt, fear, regrets, struggle & scarcity
What a therapy session looks like
We start by just talking and getting to know one and other and through our conversations, I may use NLP and CBT to start changing the way the client may think or perceive certain events, I can not change their past but I can help to change the way they feel about any past experiences that still provoke negative feelings of guilt, anger, fear, anxiety, stress or embarrassment. and I would normally, with the client's permission, move onto kinetic shift and hypnotherapy to help release fear, anxiety or stress before starting to rebuild the clients self- belief, self-worth & self-confidence and give them back their power.
After I have helped the client regain their power we can if they wish, move onto Motivation coaching by making plans and goals to take them forward into their new happy fulfilled VISION created future with me pushing them forward.
We all sometimes need a little push through the transitional stages of our life into our next dream.
Every transition will take you out of your comfort zone, even a great transition like moving from a small house into your ideal house will be uncomfortable for a while, you have to pack all the boxes, arrange a removal van, unpack at the other end. all before you are back in your comfort zone.
Or as Lao Tsu once said, A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.
Where did I train?
I started training in Ayr in Ayrshire in 2006
By learning Reiki 1 & Reiki 2 years later.
I achieved my Advanced Diploma in Clinical Hypnotherapy & NLP Coaching
plus EFT & CBT techniques through Mathew Ferguson of Motivation Training.
Kinetic Shift through UK Hypnosis Academy.
OldPain2Go Steven Blakes mythology.
Shamanic Power Retrieval with Stephen Mulhearn.
Kids & Soma Mindfulness Teacher Training by Michael Bready of Youth Mindfulness
What type of therapy I practise
I use a combination of therapies depending on what I feel the client needs. I don’t have to be told about the problem/issue, it just makes it quicker if I do but some issues are just too painful to talk about, and that’s ok.
It's not uncommon for the client to have no conscious awareness of the reason behind there inability to be happy and move forward. This is why it is often really helpful to get some history if the client is happy to tell me.
This enables me to get to know the client better and I will often pick up on issues that they may not even realise they have, just by listening to the way they reiterate past events.
People often have problems from their childhood or teenager years that are linked to the problems and issues that bring them to me, without them ever realising the connection.
How does hypnotherapy help
I find hypnotherapy to be unrivalled and unsurpassed in quickly dealing with emotional or physical trauma or any re-occurring life experiences that block progress. It also binds together the processes we use in all of the other therapies to anchor the new positive belief systems.
What sort of people do I usually see
A majority of my clients suffer from trauma, depression, anxiety and stress.
Although relationship issues, both same, mixed-sex partnerships or family relationships are becoming more and more common, with everyone looking for help in reconnecting and saving their relationships.
What do I like about being a therapist?
I love knowing that all the ups and downs that life has thrown at me and all the training I have undertaken can make a difference. It is a massive adrenalin rush when you just know, you have helped someone turn the corner and start looking forward instead of looking inward or backwards.
What do I like less about my work?
The fact that I have to charge, I would love to do free sessions all the time but I have bills like everyone else, and I have been taught that there has to be an exchange of some kind to satisfy our human innate needs.
Suggestions for clients?
If you want to help yourself I have listed a few people/apps that I think you will find interesting
Youtube ; Wayne Dyer / Marisa Peer / Louise Hay / Law of Attraction.